“What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Matt. 19:6b)
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. (Eph. 5:22-32)
The reason I cannot condone marriage between anything other than a man and a woman is because marriage is a depiction of the gospel. To compromise on marriage is to forfeit our understanding of the gospel. Thus I will stand for the biblical definition of marriage, even if this is the issue for which my generation persecutes me. “This mystery is profound” (Ephesians 5:32), and I will not mishandle it. We as humans are allowed to model the Christ-church relationship. What a glorious privilege it is that we are allowed to do so! And what beauty is found in it–the gospel!
I’m sure that you have heard that the supreme court is beginning to listen to arguments about Proposition 8, and I’m sure you’ve seen the equality profile picture that is beginning to make its rounds on Facebook. As you think about how the biblical definition of marriage is actively being crusaded against by so many, I encourage you to think past that and to consider marriage itself. Think about the responsibilities of husband and wife and what those roles are modeled upon. Think about how Christ gave himself up for the church because he loved her (Ephesians 5:25), and the implication that continues to have on you. Christian, as Good Friday and Easter draw near, may this be an opportunity for you to contemplate your own sins and how they necessitated the death of Christ. As you consider marriage, consider the gospel; as you consider the gospel, may you be led to worship by the overwhelming love of our God.
Come now, let us reason together, says the Lord:
though your sins are like scarlet,
they shall be as white as snow;
though they are red like crimson,
they shall become like wool. (Isaiah 1:18)